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Defining Motherhood – Can We?

What being a Mother Means to Me...


For me, motherhood defined me in ways I never thought possible. Pre-baby, I had a career, a life, friends, money, and most importantly TIME. I didn’t feel I lost those things when my son arrived, they simply no longer became the focus of my life, fading into the background and making way for nappies, sleepless nights, colic, that first smile, (and no not wind) definitely a smile and the time those tiny fingers reached out and grasped mine, the ‘how do you do’ and by the way, ‘thanks for taking care of me these past nine months’.

For me there is nothing pre or post that will ever define me with greater significance than becoming a mother.

It’s the most rewarding job I have ever had. I worked 24/7 shifts, and was paid with the currency of smiles, laughter and big fat tears that I happily kissed away from those baby cheeks, and as for performance appraisal, well, I’ve always worked on the basis that as parents we live in a giant glass house, i.e. can’t afford to throw stones and appraise performance without having experienced the job.

I think by the time your child reaches 18-20 years of age you can finally see for yourself whether they are a fine human being in spite of your parenting, not because of it! But secretly… I know I did a great job, whatever my appraisal says.

How do you feel about Motherhood?

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